How to Win your Ex Back After Your Affair

Have you been putting so much effort into winning your ex back but to no results? If so, then you need to read this article further.

Have you been trying your hardest and putting so much effort into winning your ex back but to no results?  If it has not been working, then you are probably doing some things wrongs. 

Don’t assume that what you think is what your ex thinks because like an old saying goes “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. Here are the great no-nos or list of things that you should not do at all cost if you ever want to reunite with your ex lover.

Getting your ex back may as well be more difficult than snagging him or her the first time around.  If you broke up, chances are feelings have been hurt and there is a loss of trust. 

The sad part is restoring hurt emotions are more difficult than winning it over and regaining trust is more challenging than being handed it the first time around.  That’s why you need to be careful of what you are going to say and what you are going to do.

I will not tell you what to do as there are “different strokes for different folks” and the last thing I want to do is to foil your style.  What I can tell you is what not to do – things that will surely ruin your chances of ever winning your ex back.  

Great No-No #1:  Stop sending your ex gifts and that include that mushy card you are writing right now.  Don’t say that it’s not an expensive item so it’s okay.  The issue here is not the price but the fact that you keep on sending presents. 

Are you not good enough or confident enough about yourself to just approach your ex, empty handed, offering nothing else but yourself?  

Gifts are just frills and your ex is more concerned about the substance.  Do you think that you, as a person, are good enough for him or her?  Besides, sending gifts may be misconstrued as trying to buy him or her back.   What you meant to be expressions of appreciation will be perceived as bribery to get him or her to forgive your mistakes or your cheating. And this could hurt your ex’s feeling even more than before, so be careful.

Great No-No #2:  Being nice is good – no one wants to be around a mean person but being sickeningly overly nice is a completely different story.  

The sad truth is, people who are too nice are viewed as “losers”.  No one wants to be with a loser so the last thing that you want your ex to think is that you fall under that category. 

Of course, this does not mean that you can swing to the other side of the pendulum and become a complete jerk.  Be nice but not too nice that you would appear like a person without a backbone and spine.  

Great No-No #3:  Constantly trying to get in touch with your ex via cellphone or email is not cool.

 Give him his or her space.  Your ex needs time to sort through thoughts and emotions.  That won’t be possible if you keep on bugging him or her.  

Saying “I love you” too frequently is not sweet.  It gets downright annoying in this case and it even makes your ex feels that you are trying to deceive him or her with your fake feeling.

There are many things that you need to know in order to get back with your ex because this time around, you lose your ex’s trust already. Therefore, it will not be as simple as asking your ex out for a first date. But everything can be done and everything is possible if you learn the secrets that can make your ex fall into your arms once again.